There are a lot of strong reactions to this book because it’s a topic that provokes strong opinions. Does a person have to actively say no in order for it to count as rape? Especially when it’s date rape.
The Mockingbirds starts by throwing us right into the middle of this question. Alex wakes up, naked, in the bed of a strange boy at her exclusive boarding school. She is shaky and sick and doesn’t remember anything about the night before. Slowly her memory starts to come back and she realizes that she’s had sex with this boy. Sex for the first time. And she can’t remember it. She knows she was drinking. She knows she ended up here. So it must be her fault, right? That’s what she thinks. That’s what she’s sure of. Because she can’t remember saying no.
It isn’t until she tells her roommate what happened that rape is even considered. So, now we get to the age old question – does drinking cancel out the things that happen to you when you’re drunk? Does being really drunk mean it’s okay for a man to have sex with a woman because she’s clearly asking for it? Does going back to someone’s place mean you‘re obligated to have sex with that person? Does kissing someone when you’re drunk mean you’re not allowed to not want to sleep with them? Let me be super, duper clear about this – NO. Hell no. Continue reading